Friday, November 30, 2012
Is the term so offensive, that people think that they can be racist, but to be called a racist is just too far?! I saw something that a very well known actor had said about racism, that the way for it to go away is to stop talking about it. I do not agree with that at all, when has ignoring something ever made anything better? Racism is already not very talked about and has it gone away? One of these days I would love to just sit and have a nice long discussion about so many different things going on with people from every race, gender, sexual preference, I would really love that, before I am able to do that, please take a look at an article where I read a very thought provoking essay about a white woman who had a very unique stance on racism, something I have never, in my life, heard articulated as thought provokingly as this woman did. It's a bit lengthy, but very intelligent and amazing to see someone so self aware:
This was one of the sweetest things to happen to me in a long time that didn't involve my fiancee, kids, family, or friends. It makes my heart smile big just thinking about the innocence a child possesses to just say whatever they are feeling, never thinking about the consequences. Even though this isn't always the best thing, honesty is always an incredible and admirable character trait to possess. I thought it was just too precious that this little girl took a moment out of her people watching time to pass on a compliment. If everybody could take a minute out of their day to pass on a compliment to a stranger, just think about how many people could be uplifted daily! I will never forget that little girl, she will never know how sweet that was or how much it meant to me, and that just makes it even more memorable!
Thursday, November 29, 2012
Monday, November 26, 2012
I am almost at a loss for words about the discovery I have stumbled upon today. From the fb page of Marquis De Suave, came the eye opener of all time about some men in this world. Apparently there are men who think they are being discriminated against because they are men.... yes because they are men. When I say I looked through these fb pages' posts with my mouth wide opened in shock, I am not exaggerating! There were so many mind blowing topics and discussions that I'm finding it hard to list them, my mind was that blown, and still is.
The men on these pages are seriously under the impression that they are being mistreated in society, most of them white men. This revelation has me completely perplexed. I never knew that men had it so tough in life. Here I am in the dark, while all this neglect has been happening, from the discrimination in the workplace to the constant berating from the media. I mean, I never realized how rare it was to see a man in a position of power at a company, nor did I pay any attention to the constant missed job opportunities my male friends were passed over for to give to a woman who was less qualified. How could I not take seriously the general lack of respect for men in general, I mean you see it everywhere; on the streets, in the media, and even in politics.
One commentator even pointed out how chivalry was making male discrimination worse! How could I have possibly missed that? I mean it makes perfect sense, whenever men show respect towards women it totally leaves the door open for discrimination. I hope you all have learned as much as I did today, and know that together, we can stop this madness! I mean what is the world coming to when a man feels threatened by women standing up for themselves.... could be the end of civilization as we know it.............
Sunday, November 25, 2012
It sometimes makes me very nervous to think about how unpredictable people are, even people you have never met in your life, could possibly hold your fate in their hands...scary.
Wednesday, November 21, 2012
Sunday, November 18, 2012
Things such as the display I witnessed earlier, sitting in traffic for over thirty minutes while people are acting just plain ignorant is too much for me to bear when I think about it. This, along with so many other things are a problem, a serious problem. Yet I see a traveling picture on Facebook of a beautiful black baby with a pacifier that looks like a gold grill, and THIS is what gets black people upset. Lol, it is maddening that with so much going on in this world, within the black community alone, that a pacifier is what people choose to focus on, because THAT is a huge issue.....a frickin p a c i f i e r.... But I am not one to bitch and moan without attempting to help, one of my favorite sayings is: If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem; because it's so true! My frustration can only be justified as long as I am willing to do my part in making things better. So excited to get this organization off the ground and running, because it is so overdue.
So as we all know from a previous post, I love music and all kinds and for different reasons. Some music has lyrics that really touch my heart and others just have a really beat. Although I do listen to some rap, it's definitely not my favorite. Rap just boggles my mind because most of it is just foolishness with some sprinkled with a few deep thoughts. The worst part about rap is the portrayal of women negatively and the glorification of certain things that should never be glorified by anyone.
With regards to the dehumanizing of women, I personally cannot put blame solely on the rappers. We also have to accept part of the blame as consumers and listeners. We also have to put some of the blame on the women who help these messages become real by being in the videos and pandering to the rappers. At the end of the day, rappers, actors, and anyone in the public eye will do whatever they need to do in order to see dollar signs. It is up to us as a society to ensure that their negativity remain a show and we understand that as well as pass on that understanding to our children.
It's all a show and nobody should ever take them seriously. It's entertainment and will most likely never change, so we have to change our thinking. Instead of getting upset at the ridiculousness of the media, just simply take it with a grain of salt and realize it's not that serious, look at the people themselves who are in the midst of it. We can't take them seriously, it doesn't even seem as though they take themselves seriously or with an ounce of respect. It's a big circus and the clowns will do anything for attention.
*this post was brought to you by a very intelligent friend of a friend, thanks Jillian! ;) * I am always open to new post suggestions. :-D
Saturday, November 17, 2012
Calling into a customer service line for a phone company... the automated voice asks if the number you're calling from is the number associated with your account, you say yes. The automated voice then asks you to punch in the number associated with your account, so you punch it in. Then the rep who finally gets on the line asks you for your damn phone number associated with your account! Why do I have to tell yall three different times, if not more? Common sense people, get it together!
I will be the first to admit I have to constantly keep my phone charging because I am constantly on it. Not actually talking to people, but texting, blogging, researching online, fb and other things. But one thing I try not to do is text and drive. Another thing I do not do is talk on the phone therefore rendering me incapable of doing the speed limit! I do not understand how anyone can get so involved in a conversation that they are no longer able to properly use their legs. For the life of me I can't wrap my mind around it.
There is an ongoing epidemic that when someone has a phone to their ear, they are transported to another place where they are sitting still or to another universe where everything disappears but them and the phone. Why though?! We don't use our ears to accelerate, we use different parts of our body to drive, only need one hand, foot, and eyes. What kinda gamma rays or whatever, are being emitted from cellphones to cause a breakdown in the rest of people's bodies?
Lol, maybe it is just me, but if you are not able to get to point A to point B without your phone paralyzing you, then perhaps it can wait. As if it's not bad enough that we drive crazy without distractions, don't add to it, I beg of you! Pull over or just put it off until you reach your destination.
Thank you from the drivers who have places to get to.
I am a firecracker, I get the ball rolling. I am highly motivated and organized and love starting a project. The worst thing about starting a project can be one of many things, like time, money, research, getting people on board blah blah blah. I refuse to give up until I'm on the ground, knocked out, and bloody and someone's wrapping me up in a blanket telling me it's over and it's time to bounce back, and even then it's hard. I'm facing a huge hurdle right now with a current, not so current project that due to the holidays I cannot really get started and it is driving me bonkers! I have started the research and it starts to make me weary to think of all the obstacles I will be facing.
But I know that through perseverance and faith my want to help others will get this accomplished, even though it's going to take quite some time. Making a schedule and communicating with my partners in this should help this move along with everyone giving their all.
Isn't it frustrating as hell though to see others doing what you're ready to do? Sometimes that can be a deterrent, because we start to assume that they had help, they were given money, or even that they are just better. The key to that obstacle I think is turning it into a motivational point, seeing their strides and hearing their stories is sometimes the kick in the butt we need.
Friday, November 16, 2012
So I was in the drive- thru at Taco Bell, a location that provides excellent customer service, and that Lil Wayne song called No Worries is playing, in this song; Lil Wayne says something about some chick bein bad as a hooker.... Lemme get this straight, at one time it was bad was strong and independent was bad, then video chick, then stripper chick and now we have devolved to hooker.
I mean seriously rappers? Is this how it's going down in celebrity USA? All I can do is laugh my ass off and shake my head.
Thursday, November 15, 2012
I'm Soooooo excited and humbled, it may not be a lot to other people but I am extremely grateful for 500 views! Thank you so much to each and every one of you, from the first time readers to the dedicated followers, thank you so much for your time and attention! Know that it is never overlooked or unnoticed. I can't stop smiling about this. Thank you all again and here's to 500 more! :-D
Wednesday, November 14, 2012
Social networking has become a mixed blessing... I enjoy the fact that I can keep in touch with my friends who are so far away yet so dear to my heart, but I also see that ignorance and hate, much like misery, loves company. Perhaps that is because people who are so hateful are truly miserable.. who knows? I am a curious character, I like to know what's going on with other parts of the world, how other people are thinking, I often find myself wondering what random people I see do in their day to day lives. Some call it nosey, I call it curious. :D Evey now and then a FB friend will "like" something on a page and sometimes I'll mosey on over to see what that page is about.
Today I happened upon a page for that reason and found some of the most delusional people.. E.V.E.R! It's always disheartening to come across any group of people banded together in the name of hate, even more so when it's hate towards someone who holds the highest office in our country. Granted everyone has their own opinions and are certainly entitled to feel however they want, but when the opinions are based on racist hate and intolerance I can't get on board with it. I'm not going to get all political, but the fact of the matter is no matter who is President, even if you don't like them, you should damn well respect them. 9 out of 10 people will say they want to be respected, but at least 4 of those people don't understand that you have to be respectful in order for it to be reciprocated.
I feel sorry for the children growing up in these households where they are being spoon fed hate and ignorance.... if anyone ever thought that these types of things were getting better, please don't be so naïve. I totally disagree that not talking about racism will make it go away, sorry Mr Freeman but that method has not been working. And to further make that page more ridiculous is it had common sense in the name! Pf.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
This man has been gay and proud for who knows how long, but now that someone has accused him of something horrible, he is the bad guy, despite his achievements. Logic does not come into play normally with stories like this and it's maddening!
It drives me crazy that people would rather believe the worst in people before they choose to fathom the best in them, even though everyone wants others to do that for them. People would rather believe that a dog with blood and flesh dripping from it's mouth is innocent before believing fact and logic about a human being. How sad for us.
Monday, November 12, 2012
Sunday, November 11, 2012
I have made a conscience decision not to include profanity in my blog, mostly out of respect for my mother, since I was bugging her to read it. In general though, I see nothing wrong with colorful conversation. I think profanity is swell and a great way to express oneself. I've always wondered why people say using profanity makes someone look less than intelligent... I don't think that makes sense at all. Summing up someone's entire identity from a few choice words is not fair, one might go so far as to say that is passing judgement without any real basis... i.e. discriminating, which as we all know is in itself ignorant to judge a book by its cover. Just because I choose to drop a few F bombs here and there does not mean that what I am actually talking about has no substance or merit, I think that would mean that the person offended by my words is so short sided that they got caught up on a couple words and as a result missed the entire point I was trying to make... ADD much?
There is always a time and place for things of course and I'm a form believer in respecting your elders... but the blanket consensus that profanity=lower intellect is just silly. I enjoy my "creative" words and try to find as many opportunities to use them as possible, lol cuz they're just words and they're so much fun and oh so perfect sometimes.
Saturday, November 10, 2012
So I was driving today and a recurring thought came to mind. When I drive I like to let the music take control, like one of the best things in the world is to be driving alone with the windows down, music at full blast, chillin! But when I'm driving I wonder what the people outside hear. Does that make sense, lol? One day I'm going to have to find the answer to the one of many questions in my mind.
Friday, November 9, 2012
So I've been bugging my beautiful mother to read my blog, since I started writing it, probably working her last nerve, lol. And today she told me that she reads all my posts and that they're interesting, they make her want to conversate with me. That is the biggest and best compliment I could have gotten, even if she didn't necessarily mean it to be a compliment, that's how I took it. I honestly have the best mother, E V E R! For so many different reasons. <3 so blessed <3
I love loooooooove movies, almost as much as music! And the one lesson I learned before many others is to never let a day go by without letting the ones you love, know that you love them. Lol I know that may seem a little silly, but it's true. I have the ability to get extremely emotionally involved in stories of all kinds. Whether it's music, a play, or a book, I get into it like you wouldn't believe. So when you think about some very common plot lines, someone being in a situation where tragedy happens to someone they've been away from, was pretty popular. Someone is wishing they could talk to so and so just one last time. Now I am a very firm believer of letting people know they are appreciated, as much as possible. Tomorrow is never promised, right?
WTF! Here's the thing, lol, I feel that we are advocating unwed pregnancies. I know at least one person is going to be upset about what I just said, so let me explain. Don't think that I'm up on a soapbox preaching to those that did not get married and then have children, as if to suggest that I was so inclined to take those steps myself or that people don't get divorced, farthest things from the truth. I just feel that, to me, there seems to be a celebration about being a "baby mama" and I don't get it. Being a single mother because you had sex at a young age with a man you don't even like or vice versa is NOT cute. I do not understand how we see the struggles of someone else and don't take the necessary precautions to avoid that. Yes I said we.
It's all well and good to get yourself into a situation and be able to come out of it stronger and be thriving for bigger and better. But, we should not be excusing this behavior. The dig yourself out attitude needs to actually be- make sure you avoid the situation completely because it's not hard to avoid. We have got to be more responsible, men and women. Women need to be more invested in themselves and only strive to make themselves better all the time, never settling for less in anything, including men. Men need to adopt the same ideals. I will stop here, for now, I've been told I'm long winded. ;) Don't be surprised if I touch on this again though, lol.
Isn't it ironic that I drive a brand new giant SUV, use aerosol hair sheen but will not allow myself to throw trash on the ground. Isn't it ironic that there's a woman somewhere doing her damnedest to convince people how horrible abortions are and to be "pro life" even though she has no idea where her own children are 90% of the time or what they're doing? Isn't it ironic that the person who just rudely cut you off in traffic is yelling at you because you honked at them? Isn't it ironic that people watch reality shows to make fun of the people involved, yet those people are making millions off them, while they work a 9-5 and are hating life? Isn't it ironic that civil rights groups get all up in arms about a white/non black person killing a black person but say nothing about the disastrous number of black on black murders? Isn't it ironic when white supremists tell other races to go back where they came from, as if they originated in America themselves?
A long time ago, it took a very good friend to look me in the eye and tell me there's nothing wrong with asking for help. It was with her advice that I learned how to truly start being less co dependant on other people. I know that may sound odd, but it makes sense in my twisted logic, loll. I was fortunate through the game show of my early life to be surrounded by some of the most intelligent people I have ever had the pleasure to encounter. From high school to my early twenties I was Blessed to have the company of people who were so open minded, honest, kind, real, and trustworthy so and so's,lol.
I am so grateful to have been influenced by these people, they showed me how to be a better person, an honest person, the kind of person that many people have never ever encountered in their life and probably never will.
I know that it is important to be humble and especially giving, I know that it is as important to be giving as much as it is important to take sometimes. I know that it is important to be there for people and take time for myself. I know that it is important to be complimentary and lift others up as much as it is important to want to be lifted up. I know how important it is to have a mutual respect for other people and their feelings and I can say that I love that about me, so thank you my Tucson friends! You are all incredible in your own way.
Thursday, November 8, 2012
I love and adore music! All types of music, rnb, country, rap, musicals, classical... the more the better! Every song speaks to me like a scene in a movie. There are certain songs that I can listen to and the tears will flow like a beautiful sad river, and other songs make me so happy that I can't be still. I have no idea why music has such a powerful grip on me, maybe because I was an only child for ten years I had to have a vivid imagination to keep from getting bored, and MTV provided a museum of different pictures to engage me or maybe it's because my house was constantly filled with music that wrapped me in a melodic blanket and took me to different places within my mind.
I've thought for awhile now how awesome it would be to choose songs for movie soundtracks, be surrounded by music allllllll day trying to choose the perfect fit for a particular feeling being created. Music has the ability to transform a terrible moment into something incredible with just the sound of a note. I honestly don't think I could survive without music. Music makes my soul smile.
Why does my work not speak for itself? Why do I have to pander to to the masses in order to be taken seriously about my work? Yes I have a louder than normal laugh, I was Blessed with the ability to enjoy life heartily and I make no apologies for that. It boggles my mind that a company goal is to keep their employees uncomfortable. Obviously I don't feel it acceptable to be constantly yelling or being over the top throughout the workday on a constant basis, but why is the person who does their job and does it extremely well discounted because they're social?
Who would you rather work with, the person who is easy going or the person that Shhhhhhh's you for attempting social interaction? Should my value as an employee be based solely on the level of my occasional laughter or the fact that when there is something to be done, I get it done 100%? But alas that is life and it's all about perspective...
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
It is disappointing and upsetting to see so much hatred and ignorance that is built up in people! How can you not be sadden by so much anger and then to know that there is no quick fix for this. People will believe what they want to believe to make them feel comfortable, this will always be true to form....but on the other side of that, we cannot underplay the damage that we are doing to ourselves. I look around at people and I shake my head at what I see... So needless to say I shake my head a lot! We cannot expect other people of other cultures and races to respect us, when we obviously do not respect ourselves. Obviously that doesn't go for the entire black race and obviously that doesn't exclude other races. I cannot speak for other races, but I will speak about black people. We have just got to do better. I am sick of seeing men, young AND old with their pants around the calves, then their basketball shorts around their knees, just to have their boxers be the final layer of ridiculousness..... I am sick of seeing women young AND old with outrageous pink, purple, and yellow hairstyles walking around following these sloppy men. I just don't understand... why is this okay with us? Why are we not holding ourselves to a higher standard? Why is it okay to let men walk around looking sloppy and gross? Why are women going after these men? I just don't understand the fascination with "less than." Young girls purposely fighting to be videotaped because of facebook or some other social network is funny?
When do we say enough is enough? When do we decide that we want the world to know that we are capable of so much more. That even though how we dress and how we do our hair does not define us, it does represent the respect we have for ourselves. When do we start to instill in our children real values that should carry them through life so that they do not look up to rappers and actors and quasi-celebrities? When do we stand up and say that it is not okay to kill each other! There is a line from a movie with skinheads (can't think of the exact movie right now :/) that says something to the effect of: there's no need to kill black people, because they're doing it themselves. Can't argue with logic..... Racism is a terrible thing, of course, but what's even worse is that we're almost racist towards ourselves...not even giving ourselves a chance anymore.
Next thing you know these people will try to work, drive, vote, contribute to the economy, donate to charities, entertain us, teach, and who knows what other unspeakable horrors! Oh wait those things are ok.... it's ok for homosexuals to build the economy, teach students, fight wars, heal people, and create and build? :o well then.... I guess it's okay if we butt into the personal aspects of their lives that only affect them... I know that I would rather have children lost in the system going from foster family to foster family or be abused or go hungry than have a homosexual raise them. And definitely don't let them marry, cuz that affects me in ways I can't think of. Legal rights! Never! For what? If you get hurt and end up in the hospital.. suffer by yourself, that's what we straight people do, legal rights aren't important just because there are thousands of marriages happening all the time, doesn't mean anything. Homosexuals are only important when they're contributing to society, cuz that's only when straight people are important.... right? That's the Christian way right, exclusion?
Tuesday, November 6, 2012
I think there is a laughable contradiction for people that are so against abortion, but see nothing wrong with letting CHILDREN run free and do whatever they want, with no supervision. Someone tried to explain to me how "real" this issue supposedly is by linking me to a story about a girl who was bullied in real life, as a result of the exchanges online.... I laughed out loud at this article about 1 minute in. The article states that the "victim" went onto Myspace to talk badly about girls in her school, and in response to this, the girls confronted her face to face and fought her.. I am firm believer in common sense, so here's is what I interpreted from that article.... A girl went online and attempted to "Cyberbully" other people, and those people then brought reality to her front and center. I still don't see how this was proving their point, seeing as the young woman essentially got what she was asking for. Parents are allowing children to use the internet as a place to hopefully hide and present themselves in a manner not true to fashion. If something is going on in your child's life...their first response should not be to run to a social networking site, however were we able to manage years before these things? If you don't want people causing issues with you online, then get offline and stop putting your whole life there, it is literally that simple. Nobody ever died because they didn't log onto a social networking site.
If your child ends up in online drama...why are you blaming the internet? Children are using social networking sites to videotape their suicide notes caused by social networking sites...do you see the cycle?! I can only feel sorry for the 15 year old that was stalked and harrassed online, because she wasn't given the necessary protection from her parents. I cannot feel sorry for her for showing her breasts to a random stranger, sleeping with another 15 year old, or putting her whole life online. Using the internet to live out your life has consequences and because they are children, we do not expect them to realize this, and therefore it is our duty as parents, as adults, to protect them and educate them. Blaming your child's online bullying on the internet makes as much sense as blaming McDonald's for making the coffee you spilled on yourself, too hot. Put blame where blame goes, accept responsibility for your actions or lack thereof. If you really cared about these children, then you would step up and not wait to address these issues when it becomes a glaring problem....or too late.
Monday, November 5, 2012
Sunday, November 4, 2012
Choices.... Have you ever really thought about this concept, I mean really, really, truly thought about it? After seeing a political cartoon on FB which depicts the want of some to force their religious beliefs onto others as a way of telling them what to do with their lives, similar to that of the Taliban. The comments on this picture were mostly in agreeance, but of course there were those who were not so eager to agree. Trying to take away someone's CHOICE, something that most everyone has waited for almost their entire young life, is an absolutely horrible and ridiculous thing to do! Think about it, when we are children, we want to grow up so fast. We want to be able to CHOOSE for ourselves what we eat, what we watch, what we play with, and even what time we go to bed and wake up. Alas, because we are children, for most of us, those were never our CHOICES to make. Therefore we are forced to wait, wait until we become adults so that we then can make CHOICES and decisions for ourselves like our parents.
In a way, as a child, being able to make our own CHOICES is almost a privilege. A privilege we will get once we are grown up enough. Now fast forward to the future, you are now an adult, you work, pay bills, and do all of the grown up things that you so wanted to do as a child; even though it is not as fun as you may have thought it would be. Along with the dreaded responsibilities also comes the wonderful power of CHOICE! How exciting to be able to go to bed when you want to, eat what you want, dress how you want, and even go where you want to! It has finally happened, you have transgressed into CHOICE-hood! Everything you do is a direct result of the CHOICES that you, and you alone make, how wonderful! If you want your own apartment, you make it happen because you CHOOSE to work. Your CHOICE to work grants you the ability to buy your own food, your own clothes, and drive a car possibly. Now that you have reached the CHOICE-hood mountaintop the world is your oyster.....unless you are a woman. No longer is CHOICE-hood so great because when it comes to certain CHOICES, it is not just you that is affected or even necessarily involved. You may make the CHOICE to have sex, but now the ramifications of that are no longer your CHOICE. The person you CHOOSE to have sex with is now involved in the after CHOICES as well as your doctor, your body as the silent negotiator, and some people seem to think them as well. Random people who you may have never met or heard of in your entire life, now feel the need to be apart of your CHOICE making process. People who are not interested in your well-being, now feel that they should be included in how you proceed with just this portion of CHOICE-hood.
I suppose that might be a good thing to have someone involved in your CHOICE-hood when it comes to deciding if the dress you picked out was horribly ugly or the way you plan to do your hair just doesn't quite fit your face or even to help you eat a little healthier. Unfortunately these people are just not that interested in those CHOICES because they are about you. No, no, no, these people are interested in your CHOICES now, because their CHOICE is to meddle, prod, and stand on their soapbox about something that does not concern them in the least. Their CHOICE is not to educate you on your CHOICES, but rather to tell you flat out what would be in your best interest.....as far as they're concerned, of course. Can you imagine how horrible life would be for someone to make all of your adult CHOICES for you....without even knowing you or giving a damn about how you would be affected by those CHOICES?